Two years ago, Dr. Alfred G. Davis Ph.d, buried his beloved wife who had succumbed to their battle with a rare cancer. Since her death, Dr. Davis has been raising his two daughters, 15 and 11 years of age.
For some men this would be difficult if not impossible. However, Dr. Davis relied on a foundation laid by his grandparents and fortified by his parents. The foundation was in place when he was a boy growing up in Milwaukee where his mother was a school principal and his father worked his way up in management at the United States Post Office.
The parents also owned a beauty salon. Young Greg as he is called watched his father Alfred Davis Sr. work the 2nd or 3rd shift after putting in time at the salon as the janitor, maintenance man, and book keeper. Davis Sr., also helped out at home with house cleaning and cooking. In observing his parents interaction with each other as husband and wife and parents, young Greg concluded that marriage was a partnership on all fronts.
Greg searched long and hard for that partner, but before finding her, he would learn one more valuable lesson that would serve him well in days to come. As Greg was completing his doctored degree in psychology, the mother he adorned was stricken with cancer. Greg observed his father continuing to do all the things he had done before in regards to the housekeeping and cooking after putting in a full day at the post office. However, his father also spent quality time in providing comfort and care to his dying wife without any complaints. This was very impressive to him.
Some years after his mother’s death, Greg found his true love. Like his father, he helped out at home, especially when the kids came.
Sadly, Greg would also find himself following in his Dad’s footsteps when the love of his life was stricken with a rare cancer. Just like his dad, he would come home and tackle the household and parental duties while providing comfort and care for his wife until she died in February of 2008.
Now he rushes home to care for his daughters where he continues to be both Mom and Dad.
Greg credits his father for being the man that he has become. Al Davis Sr. not only talked the talk, but he walked the walk with very high steps.
Mr. Davis cites open communication as the important element in raising Greg. There was nothing that he and his son could not discuss when Greg was growing up. Greg who lives in New Jersey still maintains constant contact with his father who still resides in Milwaukee. Greg relied on that contact as he cared for his wife, and it still remains important as he continues to work through his grief.
Mr. Davis, who migrated to Milwaukee from Arkansas had taken a page from his parents, especially his hard working mother. A good work ethic was instilled into him by both mother and father. Taking the time to volunteer in church and community was important to his mother. Mr. Davis adopted these attributes and passed them on proudly to his son.
Greg admires his father’s volunteer work. Mr. Davis who is retired volunteers with his Church and the homeless with the same vigor he displayed in his younger days when he worked a full time job while managing the salon. Greg plans to continue to walk in his father’s foot steps by becoming an active volunteer when he retires.
As father and son reflected on their parallel lives, Greg hopes that he is serving as an influential role model for his two daughters.
Greg and his father is what Febone1960.net refer to as real fathers real men and we wish these two men as well as other deserving men a happy father’s day.
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